Procedures For Couples From Other Dioceses

Requesting Marriage In The Diocese Of Honolulu

1. Marriage Preparation: Contact your local parish to arrange for your marriage preparation. This ordinarily includes meetings with a priest or deacon, completion of required paperwork, the use of a premarital inventory (such as FOCCUS or PMI) which will be discussed with the priest or deacon, and participation in an Engaged Encounter weekend or other similar program offered in your own diocese.

2. Contact Information: Contact a priest or deacon assigned to a parish in Hawai’i where you wish the marriage to take place. If he agrees to celebrate the wedding, send to him the name, address, phone number(s), and e-mail address for the following:

* Bride

* Groom

* A relative or friend in Hawai’i as a local contact, if there is one

* The priest or deacon preparing you for marriage

Cautionary note on fraudulent clergy: Beware of individuals who pass themselves as legitimate Catholic priests but who, in fact, are not. Sometimes referrals to such individuals are made by secular wedding coordinators. Make sure that the priest you are dealing with is in full communion with the pope and the bishop of Honolulu. Weddings celebrated by fraudulent clergy are invalid.

3. Letter of Permission: Once your priest or deacon has established your freedom to marry, he should write to the priest or deacon who will be celebrating your marriage here in Hawai’i. The letter should state the following:

* That the pastor of one of the parties (the Catholic party if only one party is Catholic) gives permission for the marriage to take place at the parish in Hawai’i

* That both parties are free to marry in the Catholic Church

* That he will be preparing the couple for marriage

4. Canonical Paperwork: At least three months in advance of the date of the wedding, your priest or deacon is to forward the following authentic documents to the diocesan curia of his diocese, which is then to mail the authentic documents (not photocopies or faxes) to the Office of Canonical Affairs, 6301 Pali Hwy, Kane’ohe, HI 96744 USA:

* Premarital Investigation Form – as used in your diocese, along with the rescript for any required dispensation or permission (this will be handled by your priest or deacon

* Proof of Baptism:

* For Catholics, a baptismal certificate – it must be a new certificate (not a photocopy or fax) issued within the past year.

* For non-Catholics, proof of baptism may take the form of, in order of preference, a baptismal certificate, a page copied from a sacramental register, an affidavit of the fact of baptism by a parent or other witness, or some other reliable proof.

* Affidavits of Freedom to Marry – an affidavit regarding each party’s freedom to marry is to be completed by a parent or other person who has known the party to be married since he or she was at least 16 years of age.

* A certificate of death, a declaration of nullity, or proof of dissolution (Pauline or Petrine privilege) is required for all previous marriages or attempted marriages, civil and religious. (For Catholics with a prior attempted marriage outside of the Church, the defect of form must be established by a Tribunal declaration.)

* Certificate of participation at an Engaged Encounter Weekend or similar program

* A copy of the letter referred to in #3

The office of Canonical Affairs of the Diocese of Honolulu will then review and approve the authentic documents and forward them to the priest or deacon here in Hawai’i who will be celebrating your wedding.

Photocopies of all authentic documents mailed should be kept by the parish sending the documents out until it is certain that they have arrived at the parish where the wedding will take place.

5. Liturgy Planning: Plans regarding music need to be arranged with the local musician. The choice of readings, and other details of the ceremony should be planned at home or with your home parish. Marriages where only one party is Catholic are celebrated with a full ceremony but ordinarily outside a Mass.

6. Church of Wedding: Marriages are to take place inside a Catholic Church or oratory. This requirement reflects the fact that marriage is a religious vocation and a public celebration of the Church community.

Exceptions in the case of a marriage between a Catholic and a baptized non-Catholic: Permission to celebrate the marriage in a non-Catholic church building may be sought if there are objections of conscience by non-Catholics to entering a Catholic Church building. In such a case, the Catholic party must write a letter to the director of canonical affairs of the Diocese of Honolulu stating the reasons for this request. The priest or deacon celebrating the wedding must also agree to this, and the couple needs to make arrangements with the non-Catholic Christian minister to use his building.

Exceptions in the case of a marriage between a Catholic and a non-baptized person: If objections of conscience arise by non-Catholics to entering a Catholic Church building, permission may be sought to celebrate the marriage in a non-Catholic religious building or another suitable place. If possible, the ceremony should be celebrated in a chapel-like arrangement or in a room apart from the place where meal or reception will take place. In such a case, the Catholic party must write a letter to the director of canonical affairs of the Diocese of Honolulu (6301 Pali Hwy, Kane’ohe, Hawaii 96744) stating the reasons for this request, the name and address of the proposed place, and a complete description of the indoor setting that is proposed for the marriage. The priest or deacon celebrating the wedding must also agreed to this.

* Outdoor weddings, that is on the beach or in gardens, ARE NOT ALLOWED.

7. Civil Marriage License: The prospective bride and groom must appear together before a marriage license agent to get a license. In Hawai’i, no blood tests, or residence or citizenship is required to obtain a marriage license. Licenses are issued immediately and expire in 30 days. Licenses are good anywhere in the state of Hawai’i. Marriage licenses for the couple may be received from:

* Hawai’i State Department of Health

1250 Punchbowl St., Honolulu, Hawai’i 96813 USA

* Hours: Monday-Friday, 8:00 a.m.-4:00 p.m.

* For more information: (808) 586-4545 or www.hawaii.gov/health

For the names, addresses, and telephone numbers of marriage agents on the neighbor islands, call the local office of the Department of Health,

* Kaua’i – (808) 241-3498

The marriage license must be presented to the priest or deacon at least 24 hours before the rehearsal. The priest or deacon who officiates at the marriage is responsible for completing and mailing in the marriage license.

8. Arrival in Hawai’i: Plan on arriving a few days before your scheduled wedding to meet with the priest or deacon who will be officiating at your wedding. The marriage license should be given to the priest or deacon AT LEAST 24 HOURS BEFORE THE WEDDING.